Wednesday, 13 November 2013

Relationships: Perform Your Duty and Remember Him

All are equal. No one is a relative or a stranger. All are He. All are pervaded by Him.
Satyanarayan is a terrific matchmaker. He, indeed, is your destiny. But, don't you lapse into despoiling Him. Your Dada claims no credit for it. But, he does enjoy your love for each other through Him. Enjoy life together, enshrining Him in your heart. Make Him the Master of your nice house.
One wishes to tightly embrace the Beloved. Through love the two become truly One. One then embraces his or her own near and dear person. Is there any joy in embracing one who is not near and dear? Only by embracing those close to us does joy arise. Love must be present there. If one can love properly, the entire experience is centered inside oneself. That is the Soul-centered state. If you separate and do not want to embrace, that is not love. Will you embrace the body when it is dead or will you make arrangements to take it to the crematorium? You embrace within yourself only Him, Who resides within the body. Then shall you see, all will become One. That indeed is Supreme Joy beyond the body, although sheltering the body. That is Love, where with one intention, one wish, there is complete merging with Him. How can there be an occasion for separation?
Getting married, setting up household is not the way to self-destruction! Is His Creation for the purpose of self-destruction? He indeed is I, I indeed am He. If there is no beginning or end of Him, then there is also no beginning or end of me. Whatever He has sent us to do, that alone we keep doing, as in a theater play. Isn't this His Joy? The way He has made Creation, if we do not follow that plan and walk on the reverse path (by renunciation), will liberation ever come to us?
Unless one is a householder, one cannot be a saint.
Dada mingles his joy and love with yours. Enjoy life and love with Him manifest as Mahanam. Remember you are first wed to Mahanam and then to your spouse. If you look upon your spouse as a conveyer of His Love and do unto your relation as you should do unto Him, and if your spouse too responds accordingly vice versa, your married lives will surely grow into a blossom of Love. The ultimate example has been shown abstractly by the two sounds of Mahanam. My love to you and your loving relation. You have His Blessings around the clock. Be in Truth and Mahanam.
One's family, father, mother, relatives, friends, etc., are created solely to give us the varied taste of His Love through them. Instead, we get too much attached to them, forget Him and suffer ultimately. It is like enjoying the outer husk of a coconut, the tasteless part, while overlooking the inner substance of the coconut which gives the real taste.
Aren't your relations His manifestation? Should you not serve them devotedly, though without attachment?
Mother, father, everyone, everything is His. I have come here only for certain acting. That's all right. Then, I shall have to go. Everybody shall have to go. So how can you say he is my son, she is my daughter, he is my husband, she is my wife? That is all destiny.
Nobody is anybody's anything. That is all farce.
Saying, "You are my wife, I am your husband," that is also false. You have got no eyes. You do not know the A B C D of anything.
Everything, everybody, everywhere....same. There is no difference. He is within that body, undoubtedly. Body is moving by mind, through mind. Nobody knows, nobody can explain. All are female. Male (Purusha) is One. He is within. In that way, it's very difficult to understand. That is all mind function we are talking, all false, ultimately false. Here is my son, here is my daughter, here is my wife, my husband, we are talking. Actually, there is no difference.
Can you shoulder the responsibilities of your small family even? You have to do your duty without inviting the dissipating and disintegrating forces of Nature. Duties are born with you, are latent in your talents. Make the best use of your talents with loving submission, otherwise you go against His Design.
Human love, relations or companions bring disappointments, uncertainties, confusions, and disturbances of mind.
Never pine for anybody who leaves you. There is no point in worrying so much. He is always with you.
How can a mind be in love with another mind?
A person cannot truly love another person. The mind attached with the body automatically develops self-interest, attachments, attractions, distractions, wherefrom come tiredness, depressions, and differences. Until, as a result of various trials the mind becomes conscious of and gets yoked with Him, Who resides within as the holder of the body and mind. Until then, we cannot relish the taste of constant Bliss. But He, Who is within us, is always vigilant for us.
Is there any love of a body, by a body? When the body is dead, do we make love to it? The in dwelling Atma (Soul or individual Life Force) is the lifelong Friend. His Love is All pervading. He makes love to Himself only. He in fact, sees Himself in everyone. Again, with Him where is the male-female difference? All is in Reality One Substance, isn't it? Change your angle of vision. Recognize the real Truth.
You have the capacity to judge? Because when you are within mind, today you say, "I love her like anything. She is my life. I would sacrifice my life for her." After three days, some difference arises and you say, "She is notorious. She is the worst one in the world." So we do not know what is correct, what is incorrect. Don't bother for all that. Just do whatever He says, just do your duty and Name, because we do not know anything.
You have no right to harm anybody. You have no right to exploit anybody in any sense, politically, economically, or spiritually.
Be of good cheer. Your relations are His Grace embodied unto you. Be with that Grace and have faith in Him.
Living in this world, in our daily affairs there come angers, sorrows, and afflictions. If we indulge them and let them victimize us, our mind will never be free of complaints and we won't be able to go near Him. So, it is profitable to shun those feelings and go ahead keeping under His Shelter.
Guru, God, Supreme Being, or Name, whatever you may call Him, never takes offense at human beings. He could because they never care to think of Him in appreciation of the enjoyable gifts of life. Instead, He still loves His created beings. Similarly, you must shun all sense of affronts and afflictions brought on for the purpose of feeling and realizing Him, thereby attain a state of Bliss. So depend on Him only.
Do not say, "I love you," to any person unless it is free from good or bad, or any other conditions. Love that is of the world is a great mental disease.
Worldly love is tainted with selfishness and falsehood. Today's love will be upset tomorrow when interests clash and differences come up. So human love is selfish. It is not steady and constant in degree. That is why sorrows, blows and jolts come that cause hurt and make life burdensome.
Human love is fickle, fragile and imbued with egoism. Remember Him. His Love is pure and everlasting.
Individuals always try to put down others out of jealousy, contempt, anger, but those who depend on God with full faith, none can make them small or harm them. Go ahead with this firm faith.
It is the habit of many people to criticize and comment, but do not bother for that. Whatever people may say, the gossip automatically gets reduced and dampened. So don't indulge your mind. If you indulge, mind becomes more restless and confused. Patience is the only solution.
The one you become upset with is really your well-wisher. It will be wrong to assess a person by one momentary action. Generally that is the mistaken way one acts. One who is your friend and gives you so much affection you must not misunderstand, even if he or she becomes harsh with you. It may be that they are driven to the action by the pressure of mind, intellect, circumstances and surrounding events. It is always advisable if you can forgive and forget in case they have really done any wrong. I can understand if you are hurt very much. Most judgments of our mind are based on such trivial actions arising out of force of circumstances. We can make ourselves good human beings if we can adjust to all these events with patience and forgiveness. So, without putting further importance on these events in your mind, you should follow what I said and you will be peaceful. If you don't follow that, you may in your unguarded moment hurt someone else in the future (in reaction to events that have hurt you). Keep this in mind. Remember Him, everything will be all right.
Be cautious and be careful about people. Atma (Soul) is One in all beings.  
You have come (to this world), be careful about that.
About Him, be careful.
Due to emotions or impatience, we very often misunderstand our acquaintances and intimates. We curse them and in consequence feel remorse. Caution yourself, don't accuse or find fault with others. If you have respect for patience, God Himself, in the course of time, extricates you or gets you to pass over the untoward situations that beset your life.
Never trouble yourself with what is happening here and there, and with the faults of others.
To hold on to a person or to keep faith in a person with expectations is to be led into frustration ultimately. Because a person's mind is blind, fickle, self-centered, selfish, unsteady, in constant want, full of desire and swayed by waves of conflicts. But, within a person He exists as the vibration of Existence (Mahanam) and, He is steady, unchangeable, waveless, full of constant, desireless Love, Mercy and Beauty. He is Truth. Trusting in a person one ultimately gets jolted and suffers. So hold to Him, Who is within as Prana Rama (God of Life), the Eternal Existence of all being. Without Him, we are dead.  Expectations of others, calculations of give and take are redundant. There is a pleasure in giving with no question of return, but this is a most difficult theory. You must not stop here, you must expand your vision and consciousness and make it your sole motto. You feel pain or concern for a few limited number of persons in your circle. But, when this feeling transcends to humanity in general, then will the human birth be successful and worthy.  Going without Him or keeping Him away, we always remain in wants. We go for the heartless love of people, lifeless inert matter that cannot take us near to the Love of Krishna, of Krishna Bhakti (devoted, selfless Divine Love).  What is happy? What is unhappy? We do not know. Suppose sometime I love you, I like to talk with you. In a few days, I don't like you. Everything is mind function. Human love is ego. But, human love, when you do not know particularly why you love, when you are thinking that person is everything, but you cannot express it to anyone, that is selfless. In that time mind function is nothing.  Who does one love? By love, I don't mean just physical attraction or getting one's interests fulfilled. True Love, which transcends these interests, always leads one to think benevolent thoughts. You must have seen various mental tendencies of people, various actions and reactions. But, when one loves a person from the heart unselfishly, one stands against all odds to see that the Beloved is not harmed in any way. One who can love this way, may be man or woman, proves that our birth is just for this Truth. Otherwise, all one has are worthless entanglements. A lot of wealth gets amassed in banks, responsibility to guard possessions increases and people become constantly watchful of fame and wealth. Various ways and methods haunt one to be alert to keep away from any scandals to avoid getting defamed. But, one who loves or can love silently does not allow that love to become known, even to the one who is loved by them. This Silent Love is Tapasya or penance. Let not anybody know of this Love. If the next person knows of this Love, this Tapasya becomes ungenuine, loses its integrity and becomes affected.  Being born in this world, we forget the existence of our real best friend the Lord, Who is our own. We place confidence in others, thus inviting our sufferings, griefs and restlessness. Our Nearest and Dearest is He, Who is Truth, beyond actions and reactions, beyond death, Eternal Love Omnipotent.  Satisfy the needs of physical life. Let there be your family, spouse and children. Perform your duty to them. But that should not be all, remember the Mahanam at the same time.

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